Make Love Work
Love is not about sex. Heard that before?
But, where does sex fit into a relationship? What do you think he needs most, sex or to fall in love with you? How can you make the bond stronger? Love isn’t simply a feeling but a decision. commitment to love.
Making love work means we must know how to keep love alive and well. Every day partners work to become better soul-mates to grow closer, trust more, love more, and strengthen respect.
Even soul-mates need space once in a while. Sometimes you need to spend time with girlfriends, guy buddies and family. He needs his private time with the guys at the sports game, visiting his favorite hang out or being alone to watch “History Channel” all night. When he wants to spend time with friends and makes plans, respect and understand that. You both deserve time apart for friends and fun with others in life. To make love work, we must be strong enough to be on our own and we both must be strong to be alone as well.
Would you believe it that we try try to find our one true love, but we find that true love, we try to keep that love alive. We realize that making it alive and stronger daily is much more difficult. That is because love is an emotion; and emotions are fickle things. The chances are that you will fall in and out of love with your partner a great many times, but if you start your relationship on a strong footing such as friendship and compatibility then you can make love stronger.
Spend quality time together.
As time marches on and your commitments start to multiply it is not always easy to find time to spend together, it does not matter, find the time, your kids will leave, your circumstances will change, but you will still be together so work at strengthening your bond. I am sure that you both enjoyed dating each other when you were starting to build the relationship?
Try to spend time together enjoying each other’s company. Find things to do that you can share with each other, it draws you more together and it keeps life fun.
Give each other some space.
We need time to devote to our own interests and to go out with our own friends. It helps us grow and it give us new ideas and experiences to bring back into the relationship.
Keep talking and communicating.
One of the greatest threats to any relationship is the lack of effective communication. When you first started dating you could probably talk for hours together about your hopes, dreams and emotions. If you want to make your love stronger then you need to keep talking and communicating to each other.
Share feelings and tell how you feel about a certain matter rather than giving ultimatum that “you should not say that”, etc. Knowing each others’ feelings can you help support one another. Everyone needs support and care. Share each others means that if your partner has a problem then be a listening ear, share what you think, be there for them even if all they need is a shoulder to cry on.
Watch your Body Language
Being honest in what you say is great but, you may be saying one thing but your body language could be saying the opposite. For example, being engross watching your favorite television program while saying that you love her. That will turn her and anybody off and show that you do not mean what you say.
Focus on the positives
Also, be confident about yourself and your relationship. If it takes courage to be that person, step up and take courage. Have faith in God. If you are not confident with life and negative, your outlook of life will turn your love one away instead of closer to you.
Be clear in your love language
Be clear about what you need from the relationship and be clear about what your partner needs. Do not drop subtle hints, that could be so subtle that they are never even noticed, be open and honest, it will make your lives far easier and far less complicated.
Show respect
Always show respect to your partner, after all they are the most important thing in your life. If you are having a bad day, it is not your partners fault so do not take it out on them, talk about it, share the load. Being two separate individuals you will have your disagreements, that is life, respect you partners point of view and try find a way to compromise. Obviously do not sacrifice your self respect for the sake of the relationship, a healthy relationship is made up of two equal partners so find a way to work together.
Be patient and understanding, people deal with things in their own time and way but there are limits, if your relationship has become abusive then call it a day and finish it, you are worth more than that.
Look to build a relationship which you are both committed to, where you both look out for each other and where you are happy, in conditions like these, you will make love work. God Bless! 
Your truly,
Shawna Mason