Make Love Work

Everyone wants true love.  We dream about it, we watch movies about it, we work hard to get into relationships to find it.  We are hardwired physically with intimacy needs about true love.  You can get True Love Advice here.

Then, when we get into a relationship, it feels great at first.  We often feel some stirrings of true love.  But over time, the longer we are together, it seems like true love starts to slip away some.  The person who felt so right in the beginning can start to feel less right after a while.

Finding true love usually ends up being easier than keeping true love.  If it was easy to keep it, we’d all still be with our first high school crush.  How then do you keep true love from slipping away?  There are some key factors.

A first key true love factor is to get than ALL relationships have phases.  The first honeymoon phase where everything is great can’t last.  It gives way to the me/us phase, where some separation occurs and we need to get on with our own goals and interests.  True love isn’t gone, it just changes form.  You can get more How To Get Relationship Advice here.

Another thing that is vital to understand with true love is that it is about giving as well as receiving.  You have to give your time and loving attention to your mate regularly.  And your mate has to give some loving attention to you.  You can’t keep true love if you are doing all the giving or all the receiving.

Another vital factor to keeping true love alive in your relationship is to play.  The less play in your relationship, the less true love you will feel over time.  Too often we let the responsibilities of adulthood push the play out of our relationship.

Do you have a regular date night?  Do you have a few things you enjoy doing together?  Playing together may be hard if you’ve gotten out of the habit, but with a little attention you can start to bring some back.  And studies have shown the more play the less fighting and conflict.  Play is good!

True love, then, requires some focus and attention.  If you do not give up when things get tough, if you give some time and attention to play in your relationship, you can actually keep true love alive.  That and keep learning more about it and you can keep it alive with your mate.  You can get more How To Get Marriage Guidance Help here.

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