Make Love Work

About four months ago I had lunch with a thirty-seven-year-old man named Alexander who suffers from extreme depression, has relationship issues, and who is alcohol and drug dependent. As affirmed by Alexander, it is his alcohol and drug dependency and his extreme depression that had the most to do with his recurring relationship issues.

I remember reading that a history of mental health problems, substance abuse, and negative drinking quite often happen in the same family. Additionally, I have read that under such circumstances, an individual needs to get treatment for both medical problems and that addiction and mental health issues commonly occur in the same individual.

As declared by Alexander, he is so overwhelmed by his relationship difficulties and by both of his medical issues that he in actual fact has no desire to achieve much of anything. What is particularly sad about this is that earlier in his life, Alexander managed to finish three semesters of grad school in French history.

Alexander’s situation makes me wonder if he is an example of a person who can look in the mirror and see his drug abuse and alcohol drinking problems and do something healthy about these difficulties or if he is someone who has to hit rock-bottom before he gets drug and alcohol counseling that leads to lasting sobriety.

The Need For a Treatment Program He Can Believe In and a Psychologist He Can Trust

If it would be helpful I would suppose that I could advise him about several websites and blogs that could possibly help him learn more about drug abuse symptoms, the stages of alcoholism, chemical dependency information, and relationship problems. In my opinion, nevertheless, Alexander needs to locate a rehab program he can believe in and follow through over the long haul and find a healthcare practitioner he can trust.

I could be mistaken but it seems to make sense that Alexander more likely than not needs to look in the mirror regarding his drug addiction signs and alcoholic symptoms and admit the fact that he cannot use drugs or even drink in moderation if he wants to get sober, stay sober, and start on the path to lasting sobriety.

It may be asked how treatment would help his alcohol and drug dependency. For starters, there are quite a few newly discovered doctor-prescribed medications that can help Alexander avoid a drug and an alcohol drug relapse, help him through the drug and alcohol detoxification process, and help him through his withdrawal symptoms.

Second, Alexander would learn to admit the fact that there is absolutely nothing productive about drug abuse and careless and hazardous drinking and that involving himself in one or both conditions is the route to deteriorating health, a premature death, shattered relationships, financial difficulties, poor work and school performance, and legal problems.

Third, treatment for his depression and for his relationship issues might help him manage these psychological problems more effectively and help create less of a need for him to involve himself in addictive behavior.

The Significance of Support Groups Like Narcotics Anonymous and Alcoholics Anonymous

There are reasonably several family members, friends, and other individuals who would offer to help Alexander with his chemical dependency and his unhealthy and excessive drinking. He probably would experience greater understanding from a support group such as Alcoholics Anonymous or Narcotics Anonymous, on the other hand, instead of listening to individuals who drink in moderation or who have never abused drugs.

When People Accomplish Things They Like and About Which They Are Fervent

There’s a psychological attitude that contends that individuals who do things they love and something about which they are fervent arrive at a splendid place in life. In other words, when people do what they enjoy, they rarely if ever go through boredom or an uneventful life. If they involve themselves in something that is rewarding, furthermore, they become more actualized and experience more satisfaction and delight in life and in their relationships.

When this is thought about for a few minutes it becomes obvious that this affirmative viewpoint is widely divergent from a life that is rooted in substance abuse because such a lifestyle removes the satisfaction and delight that life has to offer.

Since Alexander lacks the grit to do much of anything in his life, it is evident that he desperately needs some hope for a more fulfilling life. And the unfortunate thing is that hope is all around Alexander if he could only get to the place in life to get the treatment he needs for his severe depression and alcohol dependency and drug addiction and stick with his treatment protocol.

Better Relationships, A Wonderful Life, Self Respect, and Affirmative Change Are a Reality

Alexander is clearly too young to be dejected in life. He doesn’t comprehend this at this time in his life but if he can learn how to remove himself from drugs and alcohol through drug and alcohol rehabilitation and get the treatment he needs for his extreme depression, he can redirect his life and start living with passion, self-respect, and direction.

More positive relationships, a wonderful life, self respect, and constructive change are certainly possibilities for Alexander if only he could become motivated to seek the professional treatment he requires, follow through with his therapy regimen, live his life in an addiction-free and healthy manner, and learn how to foster a more positive attitude about his existence.

Tags: alcohol addiction, alcohol dependency, alcoholism, bipolar, chemical dependency, Depression, detoxifica, drug addiction, healing, Inspiration, manic depression, men's issues, mental illness, motivation, positive attitude, relationships, self improvement, self-esteem

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