Abusive Personality
Personality uniquely defines oneself; in other words, personality is the set of characteristics that distinctly identifies one person from another. One’s personality is usually influenced by experiences and knowledge that helps to deal with the matters that develop as life goes on. Therefore, developing one’s personality is a must to succeed in life. However, an abusive personality is a specific kind of personality that is damaging to others as well oneself.
As any other personality would display signs and characteristics of their type, an abusive personality reveals characteristics that are generally considered as warning signs. Although the display of these signs does not necessarily imply that one has an abusive personality, a greater number of warning signs suggest a greater inclination towards abusiveness. These warning signs include extreme jealousy for another, dominance of behaviour where one tries to be in control and being overly possessive. It is not surprising that the abusive person will hide their dominative behavior in an act of love and concern which the victim will tend to fall for, but with the passing of time this behavior will intensify and become severe representing] dominance and control by threatening and influencing. A person with an abusive personality would also try to seclude the other party from any social fundamental interactions by suppressing them to associate with friends or relatives.
Another distinctive characteristic of a person with an abusive personality is applying impractical expectations. There is always that person who wants to be the perfectionist that would go to the extent of faulting others for not meeting their expectations. This is definitely an irrational and impractical expectation] of an abusive personality. Furthermore, the person will always deny responsibility for any violent or negative acts caused by him/her. “It wasn’t me!” would be a common phrase by the abuser because they are never to be blamed for any act of violence they may have intended. It is commonly stated that they were provoked to act in such a manner by the victim.
An abusive personality would also compel the person to be hypersensitive and therefore, they are easily offended or disturbed. As a result, relatively small day-to-day events may cause the person to lose his temper. Abrupt mood swings would also occur in a person with an abusive personality causing them to be loving one moment and hostile the next. It is not strange for persons with an absuive personality to also verbally abuse their victims by frequently humiliating them.
Immediate help should be sought by those with an abusive personality. Counseling services may provide the necessary guidance to overcome abusiveness. It should be remembered that it is not a disgrace to seek help if you or someone you know has an abusive personality. No one wants to be a victim of an abuser and no one should be abusively treated.
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