Make The Effort To Save A Failing Marriage
Make The Effort To Save A Failing Marriage
riage doesn’t have to be feared, but it does have to be respected.
We put such an effort into planing for the wedding day. We dump all of our emotional resources, our financial resources and our relational resources into planning for that once in a lifetime celebration. Do we, however, put that much effort into saving a failing marriage? Are we willing to exhaust every resource we have for that commitment we made at the altar, for better or worse? The real commitment begins once the public celebration is over, when real life happens and throws us curve balls that we didn’t see coming.
The rough spots in a marriage can come from many different sources. They may be financial, family issues including blending families, struggling with intimacy or any number of other life struggles that affect how we view the state of our marriage. Regardless of the struggle that may be causing us to feel as if we should throw in the towel they should be addressed and worked through. After all didn’t we commit to “for better or worse”?
Standing at the altar and repeating your vows, did you say in the back of your mind, this may not work and that is okay, I can always find someone else. If you did you should not have gotten married to begin with. However, I would suggest that most of us didn’t have that thought at all on our wedding day. You probably stood there, looking at the person next to you and said, I can’t wait to spend my life with you. To embrace each day that comes not matter what. An emotional moment that does not always consider the daily reality of spending your life with someone. That moment does not take into consideration the circumstances that may cause such frustration and anxiety that you consider giving up. All you are thinking about in that moment is how in love you are and what qualities in that person next to you want to make you leap with joy every time they walk in a room. When times get difficult those qualities did not just get up and leave, they may be on hiatus’s right now for whatever
The most important reason to save a failing marriage is for the simple fact that you made a commitment to that person to spend your life with them. We often fail to see the impact that ignoring that statement can have on our spouse, ourselves and our families. By recognizing that commitment and again re-examining the qualities that made us fall in love in the first place we can put in perspective the importance of seeing it through. If there are children involved in the marriage, we demonstrate through our fortitude that marital relationships are not something to be taken lightly. If we begin to fight for our marriages as was the case two generations ago, we can change the face of marriage. We can demonstrate to society once again that the sanctity of marriage has a value that is worth something which no other relationship can replace. We can show the generation that believes everything can be replaced, that marriage is not one of those ever changing commodities that can be bought an
r an escaped clause from just because it looks tough. Fight for it, fight for you and your spouse and the love that took you to the altar, in the end it may be a victory in life that you can celebrate every year on that day you call your anniversary.
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